Love and sex
In the land of the rising sun, love and relationships are in danger. A quarter of all Japanese between the ages of 30 and 40 are virgins, and 50% of the population admit that they do not have sex regularly. Not surprisingly, this led to a sharp drop in the birth rate. 30% of Japan's population could disappear by 2060. But what are the reasons for this separation from the world of love and sex? Hard work, stress, money problems... not exactly an ideal environment to find love.
Every woman seems beautiful in the dark, from afar and under a paper umbrella.
/Japanese Proverb/ This phenomenon has created a unique industry in the country, with the emerging trend of "single weddings": young women in wedding dresses posing for the camera on their big day... except they're not actually marrying anyone .
Ironically, Japan is also one of the largest producers of porn films in the world, and many people seemed to prefer manga to women their age. As Japanese men and women gradually lose their communication skills, courses in the art of seduction are flourishing.
Sexual addictions
Sexual relations in ancient Japan were also quite different from European mores.
Netaymori - sushi served on a naked female body can be considered innocent fun
compared to their other inventions. For example, in bukakka, the sperm of several men falls on the face of a woman or a man, and in unagi, a live eel is placed in the woman’s vagina. Tsubashanpu is also very popular among the Japanese - a man experiences sexual pleasure from spitting on the faces of numerous girls. Also
The Japanese are credited with inventing such an important element of BDSM as bondage
By the way, in modern Japan there are institutions offering sadomasochistic services to people if they experience pleasure from pain and humiliation. They also sell and rent sex dolls quite freely.
Sexual relations in ancient Japan were very different from European mores
Family
It's difficult to write much about this because the Japanese are very private in their personal lives. Especially when it comes to love and sex. But there are problems, that's for sure. Half of Japanese women aged 18 to 34 are unmarried, while 66% are unmarried. Japan has the lowest percentage of 13% of children under 15 years of age and the highest percentage of 24% of elderly people over 65 years of age. In Japan, more diapers are sold for adults than for children. The birth rate is falling, the population is decreasing by 150,000 people a year.
6 types of busty women fighting with swords. Anime "Bikini Warriors". 16+
the one you love with secrets. /Japanese proverb/
Japanese people are extremely shy. And overly polite and patient. This shyness certainly interferes with the search for a second half. And few days off and long working hours also don’t help the relationship much. Also, the rich virtual and fictional world of anime and video games, in which many people live, is a drag on personal life. In fact, their whole life consists of working, working, working .
The meeting already contains the beginning of separation.
/Japanese proverb/ But the Japanese would not be Japanese if they did not find a solution to this. Like losing yourself in a fantasy world full of anime. And girls often play a sexual role in this world.
Boys fall in love with manga figures, but girls cannot cope with the childish behavior of the opposite sex. There is also no physical contact in public.
“...Deep at the core of this stubborn patriarchal society is the belief that love and all its components will lead to a lot of stress and trouble, and therefore we must stop this nonsense immediately.” Kaori Shoji
Some people are designed in such a way that, escaping loneliness in marriage, they become even more lonely. /Yuki Yawahada/
No kisses at meeting and farewell, words of love and no hugs of joy. At most, the head of a fellow traveler who fell asleep on your shoulder.
Women, unlike men, are able to squeeze their feelings into a realistic framework. /Hiroshi Sakagami/
Sex, love and attention are big business in Japan. Everything that can replace simple human relationships is sold here.
Hotel of Love. Japanese sex culture
The Japanese find it very difficult to have sex in their thin-walled apartments. Here love hotels come to their aid (such as the Angel Love Hotel in Osaka), which are visited by both young and old...
Modern sexual culture in Japan is closely connected with traditional Japanese culture and the socio-economic transformations that the nation experienced in the 20th century.
Sexual culture in Japan has developed separately from mainland Asia over the centuries. In Japan, the dominant religion is Shintoism, which does not consider sexual intercourse sinful and does not prohibit it. Japanese official (Confucian) culture condemned love as blind passion, but mind-controlled sex did not cause such outrage. Unlike the Christian West, where sexual abstinence was preached, Japan adhered to a different point of view, based on the principles of Taoism. To achieve the happiness of a long life, a person must strive for the harmonious interaction of yin and yang (Japanese “in” and “yo”). To do this, it was necessary to develop the body, the means for which was sex. A woman was understood as a junior yin, that is, an impure yin, because even in the most passive woman there is an active element of yang. The additional element nourishes and strengthens the main one. Yin represented the vagina and the fluid that moisturizes the female genitals. Since copulation was one of the main paths to heaven, there was no reason to surround it with silence. With this approach, women received great attention. The female authority of yin was considered inexhaustible. The man had to bring the woman to orgasm. The man's nourishment with the yin substance had to come from various women. “If a man constantly changes the women with whom he has intercourse, this will be of great benefit.” There were certain rules in choosing women for these purposes. A girl does not have to be beautiful, but she must be pleasant, well-mannered, short and well-shaped, with a short neck and small legs. Gentleness, humility, chastity and decency were required of her.
The harmony of yin and yang was conveyed by overtly erotic images of sexual intercourse in both literary and visual forms (Utamaro’s “Love Plot”, Korusai’s “Nun with her Lover”, etc.). At the same time, the naked body, just like love relationships, have never been the subject of “high art” or aesthetic admiration. The Japanese did not create anything similar to ancient culture, where the subject of the image was the body as such. High literature and poetry of the Tokugawa era were completely devoid of a love component, and the so popular “spring pictures” had a purely practical purpose rather than an aesthetic one. They were never hung on walls, where paintings and calligraphic drawings traditionally occupied the main place.
In the Middle Ages, polygamy was widely practiced by the elite, and premarital sexual intercourse (fucking) was widespread among the common population. In Japan, until the Mzyji Restoration, a girl's chastity was not a prerequisite for marriage. Moreover, it often happened that a girl who had “success” with city men became desirable to many fellow villagers who dreamed of marrying an experienced woman who could reveal the joys of city life. The aristocrats also had a rather unique approach to chastity, who did not condemn the wife if a more influential man became her first man. And only among the military class was chastity one of the conditions of marriage. If the bride turned out to be not a virgin, then the shame first of all fell on the whole family, and society especially condemned her mother, since she was the one who was unable to give a proper upbringing to her daughter.
With the advent of European missionaries who preached the sinfulness of human flesh, sexual culture in Japan acquired new taboos. In 1883, a law was passed prohibiting the keeping of concubines. Under the great influence of Western ideas, rules of morality and etiquette began to be formed for women, which previously applied only to representatives of the samurai class.
Separation of social roles “Innocent” men
For centuries, in Japanese society, with its strict norms of behavior, male sexual desire was natural and taken for granted. For this reason, in cases with any manifestations of male lust (the Japanese use the term sukebe [ja], that is, debauchery), including even deviant ones, such as dating mature men with schoolgirls, selling used underwear of sexually mature girls (burusera [ja]), molestation in public transport (tikan), only the girls and women themselves, who have “vicious” bodies, are condemned, but not the men themselves, whose sexuality is encouraged in any form, even marginal ones.
"Immaculate" women
Since the beginning of the Edo period, Japanese men began to strictly differentiate women into those who could be objects of sexual desire (geisha and prostitutes) and those whose bodies were devoid of sexuality (mothers and wives). “Female sexuality could not go hand in hand with motherhood,” wrote Japanese researcher Chieko Ariga. “Sexy women weren’t supposed to become mothers, and mothers weren’t supposed to be sexy.”
At the beginning of the 20th century, the idea of a “good wife and wise mother” began to be implanted in Japan. According to the new laws and the image formed in the mass consciousness, the position of a pious and chaste wife in the family was reduced to performing exclusively family duties. Moreover, from a legal point of view, even within the family, a woman did not have any rights: without the consent of her husband, she could not borrow money, give or receive gifts, etc. According to Professor Hideo Tanaka[ja], a woman’s legal capacity was not much different from her mental capacity retarded. Women could not file for divorce; cheating on their husbands was punishable by imprisonment, while the law remained silent regarding such offenses by men. Slightly downtrodden and childish wives, in the minds of the Japanese, acted as life partners, but not as objects of sexual desire. Their participation in the political life of the country was carried out through the birth and upbringing of sons - new soldiers of the Empire. For the same reason, the house and inner chambers did not act as a sphere of intimate, private life, and sex with the wife was aimed at fulfilling the reproductive function, and not at obtaining carnal pleasure.
In the post-war period, the strict delineation of social roles (“wife-housewife” and “husband-breadwinner”) led to a crisis phenomenon in Japanese families, which, on the one hand, manifested itself in a crisis in relations between spouses (including sexually), and on the other hand, the other was in the displacement of men's sexual desire towards young "deviant" girls who were the product of those same unhappy families.
"Vicious" women
The institution of prostitutes has existed in Japan for many centuries. In 1872, the “Law for the Emancipation of Prostitutes[ja]” was issued, allowing the latter to escape exploitation by pimps. However, a hole in the law led to the fact that prostitutes began to provide services privately. During the same period, a ban was imposed on communal bathing in baths, the sale of shunga, and nudity in public places.
Immediately after the end of the war, American occupation troops began arriving in Japan. With joint funding from the Japanese government and entrepreneurs, the Special Entertainment Association (Tokushu ian shisetsu kyokai) was established for them, namely a network of brothels for which women were selected in rural areas. However, due to the rapid spread of sexually transmitted diseases, military personnel were prohibited from using these establishments. In January 1946, the occupation authorities sent a memorandum to the Japanese government on the abolition of the prostitution system in Japan (Nihon ni okeru kose seido haishi ni kansuru obegaki), and the Ministry of Internal Affairs notified the governors of the need to introduce a ban on prostitution. In January 1947, Imperial Decree No. 9 was published on the punishment of persons who force women into prostitution (Fujo ni bayin saseta mono nado no shobatsu ni kansuru tekugō). Thus, the system of prostitution was eliminated by law. In November 1951, 80 women's organizations, on the initiative of the Women's Christian Temperance Society, created the Council Against the Revival of the System of Licensed Prostitution (Kosho Seido Fukkatsu Kyogikai) and began a movement to convert Imperial Decree No. 9 into law. This movement continued until 1956, when the Prostitution Prevention Law (Baixiong Boshiho) was passed.
In modern Japan, due to the current law that prohibits sexual intercourse for monetary reward, paid sexual services are provided in a veiled form.
Schoolgirls as a social class and their sexual image
The image of schoolgirls as representatives of a modernized society was formed in Japan at the beginning of the 20th century. In the post-war period, the image of young innocent girls, attractive to a male audience, began to be actively exploited by figures of mass culture both in music and in cinema. 1970s pop idol Momoe Yamaguchi rose to fame at age 13 when she sang “Green Peach[ja]” with the chorus “Do to me what you want. Let everyone say that I’m bad.” In cinema, the image of schoolgirls subjected to violence, including sexual violence, began to be actively exploited from the beginning of the 70s. Some of the first "pink films" produced by the major film company Nikkatsu were the Girls' High School trilogy starring Junko Natsu and High School Report: Yuuko's White Breasts (1971). The following year, Toei, Nikkatsu's main competitor, launched the Scary Girls School series of sexploitation films (1972–1973). Director Norifumi Suzuki admitted: “I did what the company asked of me. Please do not look for any kind of authorial self-expression in these films. I was a tradesman from the lowbrow film industry, a craftsman free of ideology." Film critic Toshio Takasaki[ja] explained the film industry's surge in interest in schoolgirls this way: "Taking something pure and innocent, like schoolgirls, and putting them in an innocent situation is every man's dream." In his opinion, films with naked, abused schoolgirls were ideal bait for film audiences, which were 100% male. Since the early 1990s, the image of schoolgirls began to be actively used in pornography.
In the early 1990s, amid a severe economic crisis, a new generation of young schoolgirls realized the "market value" of their bodies, resulting in the spread of the practice of enjo-kosai - paid dates in which middle-aged and older men spend time with girls, buying them time for money and/or gifts. Among the reasons for this phenomenon, researchers cite the emergence of a consumer society in Japan, which entailed the desire of young girls to improve their social status by purchasing expensive branded items, for which they cannot get money from their parents. Another reason was a dysfunctional family background: in many Japanese families, fathers and mothers rarely participate jointly in solving household problems and raising children.
Marriage
In Japan, your family is your spouse, much like a son or daughter, someone you care for and love unconditionally . The one for whom you must have limitless patience. Someone you are involved with, for better or worse, who you should never divorce and who you are responsible for. Sex is completely separate from such love. Sexual desires are considered entirely animalistic, and desire is often separated from the concept of love and home life. As a result, sex is often more experimental in nature, and when it occurs, it is used to satisfy sexual curiosity, various kinks and fantasies.
Tamaka Ogawa. Sexual assault of schoolgirls is common on public transport in Japan
Japanese couples virtually stop having sex after having children, and 47.2% of married men and women in Japan reportedly don't have sex with each other at all. In addition, there are tens of thousands of legally registered sex shops and dens in Japan, “sugar nannies” are commonplace, and being a “hostess” is one of the most sought-after professions for young Japanese girls. The word "cheating" literally translates to "playful wind" in Japanese, and although it is unpleasant, it has none of the harmful connotations that are associated with it in Western culture. Again, this is all a side effect of the importance we place on sexual gratification outside the home. Many middle-aged Japanese men believe that “their wives are not women, they are family.” Many casually admit that they dream of a girl, despite the fact that they already have wives.
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In Tokyo it is common to talk about threesomes, foursomes, toys and experiences with others, even strangers.
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Separated marriage
Living together between spouses was not a typical occurrence in ancient Japan. Much more often a special form of marriage was used - tsumadoi, in which
the husband freely visited his wife, maintaining, in fact, separate residence from her
Such a marriage did not require monogamy from a man; he was not forbidden to have several wives, as well as concubines. However, the law prohibited leaving his wife without a reason to marry a new woman.
The age for marriage was 13 for a boy and 15 for a girl.
Moreover, to create a family, the consent of numerous relatives was required, including grandparents on the wife’s side.
In ancient Japan, a special form of marriage was popular - tsumadoi, in which the husband freely visited his wife. Source pikabu.ru
Porn industry
Thousands of shops full of sex toys in the craziest forms, bars, cafes where you can chat with girls and not much more, games with sexual content, bars where women pay for attention from cute boys and even cafes where you pay, to be hugged.
For example, the shopping streets are full of dressed-up girls and dressed-up guys looking for a sugardadi or a mommy for the evening.
Spending by Japanese teenage girls
In Japan, there is a special term for such meetings, “papa katsu,” when girls individually enter into a kind of oral agreement with a man about dating him for a fee.
Cold prudence is inherent in most women who have known many men in their lives.
/ Mori Ogai /
Many teenagers are under 14 years old. In exchange for attention, they receive money, clothing and food. These are substitutes for love, warmth and social communication.
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Japan also has a big problem with sexual perversion, especially among the male population.
Selling sex is the only option available to single mothers in Japan.
Two loving hearts and metal will melt.
/ Japanese proverb / Common sense commands: “Don’t approach women.”
But a healthy instinct orders exactly the opposite: “Do not avoid women.” Ryunosuke Akutagawa They have a lot of newspapers and magazines, including famous and well-drawn figures.
Japanese sexual entertainers buy dirty panties and urine from girls. Burusera Store (ブルセラ)
Photos of women, manga, child pornography and other extremes are very popular. Prostitution here takes on the most bizarre forms.
Chicanas are the real scourge of Japan, they love to grope girls on trains for partially decent or completely indecent seats. It is not surprising that there are separate carriages for women. Advice for foreign men when traveling by train! When sitting down, make sure both of your hands are occupied with something. For example, a mobile phone, a book. Unless you really want to be (falsely) accused of sexual harassment.
Chicanas prepare to hunt schoolgirls on the day of Japan's most important test
Pornography as art
In Japanese culture, there was no consciousness of original sin regarding sex, as there was in Christian cultures. On the contrary, according to ancient Japanese myths, even the emergence of the Japanese islands themselves occurred as a result of the sexual relationship of the god Izanagi and the goddess Izanami. And therefore
Sexual themes in Japanese art originated many centuries ago
and have survived to this day. Explicit intimate scenes can be found in ancient drawings, sculptures, literary materials and oral works. And even now in Japan the hentai genre is quite popular: manga or anime, where
depicts sexual intercourse between humans, monsters or even tentacles
Hentai can be easily purchased from bookstores or movie stores across the country.
Explicit intimate scenes can be found in ancient drawings and sculptures Source Pikabu.
Aiseki Izakaya (相席居酒屋)
Aiseki izakaya, which directly translates to “communal bar and restaurant,” is a bar and restaurant that some Japanese visit to meet new people.
It's like any other izakaya (bar-restaurant) in Japan, where all sorts of alcoholic drinks are available and you order small plates of food to share with the group. The difference between an aiseki izakaya is that you sit with strangers rather than friends.
The unique advantages of an aiseki izakaya are that they:
- a) either significantly cheaper or completely free for women , including food and drinks;
- b) men must pay for every half hour or hour they sit there, in addition to the cost of food and drinks.
Some aiseki izakaya have developed a system where each group is given a group ID card, and if you want to change tables and meet another group, you sneakily hand your group ID card to a staff member (when you "use the restroom" or "make a phone call"). and after a few minutes they will move you to another table with a simple explanation that it is time to change group.
Covering my tracks
In an effort to hide their crimes, the Japanese army in many cases simply destroyed them during retreats in 1943–1945. unfortunate sex slaves. When the city of Xuncheng, located near Nanjing, was temporarily liberated from the Japanese, the Chinese discovered a building containing the naked bodies of dozens of Chinese women who had been killed by the Japanese before they were driven out of the city. A sign above the front door read: “Comfort Station of the Great Imperial Army.”
After World War II, General Okamura, was recognized as a war criminal in China, but thanks to the protection of Chinese leader Chiang Kai-shek, he managed to return to Japan.
The Women's Tribunal in 2000 recalled that the Tokyo International Tribunal 1946–1948. did not consider the facts of sexual crimes, although acts of sexual violence committed during military conflicts constitute “crimes against humanity”, that is, they are war crimes subject to criminal punishment.
Tokyo International Tribunal 1946–1948 really did not consider military violence against women as a separate crime. True, evidence of what Japanese troops did during the massacre in Nanjing was heard and presented. And these facts indicated that not just excesses took place - a specially developed and approved state program was being implemented. We can only hope that this is no longer possible today.
Gokon
A gokon is a group blind date, usually organized by a man and a woman who know each other and agree to bring three or four single friends of the same sex to the meeting, usually at an izakaya. It's similar to speed dating, but in smaller quantities and without having to change places every few minutes.
The group eats and drinks together, and the organizers usually initiate ice-breaking games to help everyone relax and unwind. If icebreakers don't do that, then alcoholic drinks will probably do the trick.
Suicides for love
Since 1617, all priestesses of love were required to live in separate quarters, following the example of modern “red light districts”. AND
no matter what class the courtesan belonged to, she could not leave her place of work without permission,
although the man was allowed to buy the girl as a wife. But it was so expensive that many lovers simply could not afford to be together. Due to this
there was a widespread phenomenon called “shinju” - couple suicides
The Japanese believed in reincarnation and were sure that they would definitely be together in the next life.
Often a love affair with a courtesan ended in couple suicide. Source Think
Maid bar - maid bar.
You enter the hall and are immediately greeted with an overly warm and hyperactive group of girl waitresses. "Welcome home, master!" They lead you to your table. You order snacks, ice cream and drinks.
Yakuza kidnap the manager of the Maid Cafe
All the girls come to greet you separately. You can stay for two hours for a fixed price and pay again for drinks and food.
Be careful, nothing sexual. They don't touch you, and you don't touch them. Japanese guys come here for attention. And to hide from reality. Girls are attracted to you, ask about your life and make fun noise. And you can always feel like the life of the party!
They show you how to do it and before you know it, you're imitating the cat to get your drink. They sing songs, clap their hands and do dance moves. Everyone is very active, exaggeratedly cheerful and ridiculous. For an extra penny they will take a Polaroid photo of you with one of the girls. Taking photographs yourself is strictly prohibited. For cat-shaped ice cream, coffee stirred by a maid, a Polaroid and an entrance ticket, you'll pay 3,000 yen, almost 25 euros.
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